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Are You Leading Your Life From a Place of Love or Fear?

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By Brett Mallory Miles

You Create the Experience You Have Moment to Moment

Yes, experiences don’t just happen to you. You either consciously choose your experiences or you do it unconsciously, based on reactive habit patterns and believes. The latter is the most common source of experiences. How interested are you in experiencing more fun, love, peace, and satisfaction? You have a say in that. What do you say? Here’s how to create the experiences you want.

Think of a continuum of “ways of being.” On one end is an expanded, open, unlimited way of being and on the other is a restricted, closed, limited way of being. Each “way of being” in the two columns, below, approximate the extreme cases. Where is your “center of gravity,” the focus of your energy, or the focus of your thought most of the time?

ALL human decisions are informed or influenced by where, on the continuum, a person is located in their “way of being.” How you are being matters. If you were to select a friend or a boss, notice on which side of the continuum you would prefer them to operate from.

Noticing Allows Choice

Notice how your prefer others to be with you. Notice how YOU are being. Give yourself the option of choosing how to be. Without choice, you are in a default mode, reacting, instead of choosing an appropriate, best response. Your default way of being works sometimes. And when it doesn’t, your leadership and individual performance suffer.

Empower yourself with choice and choose ways of being that engender followership and high performance. Your experiences depend on your commitment to noticing and choosing.

Ways of Leading / Ways of Being

CONTRACTED with FEAR as opposed to OPEN with LOVE

Contracted With Fear

  1. Weak, Expresses Weakness
  2. Scarce/Impossible/Limits/Obstacles
  3. Disconnected
  4. Unworthy
  5. Incomplete/Sense of Inadequacy
  6. Absent/Distracted
  7. Distrusting/Unsafe
  8. Unsure/Fearful
  9. Despairing
  10. False/Errors/Liar/Unreal
  11. Unclear/Confused
  12. Resentful/Complaining/Keeping Score
  13. Rejecting/Denying
  14. Condemn/Judging/Make Guilty
  15. Irresponsible/Unaccountable/Victim
  16. Sick/Diseased/Burdening/Blocking
  17. Abrasive/Unkind/Harsh
  18. Impeding/Withholding/Taking

Open With Love

  1. Strong, Expresses Strength
  2. Abundant/Possibility/Unlimited
  3. Connected
  4. Worthy
  5. Complete/Adequate
  6. Present/Focused
  7. Trusting/Safe
  8. Courageous/Confident/Fearless
  9. Hopeful
  10. Truthful/Real
  11. Clear
  12. Grateful/Appreciative
  13. Accepting/Receiving
  14. Forgiving/Non-judgmental/Guiltless
  15. Responsible/Accountable
  16. Healing/At Ease/Effortless/Flowing
  17. Gentle/Kind/Tender
  18. Serving/Contributing/Giving

Notice, as you lead yourself and others, your general “way of being”. If you prefer to be more loving, then commit to being loving and show up that way. By “love” or “loving” I do not mean sappiness or romanticism. I mean a powerful, inspiring, connecting, intelligent and healing force that is present and operating throughout the world. Continue to notice and keep choosing loving ways of being. It’s a practice that takes courage, discipline, commitment, perseverance, and time. Make it a daily practice.

Commit to be a loving human being. Lead with love. Because humans experience the power of love and its powerful, inspiring, connecting, intelligent and healing force, they will follow those who are loving beings.

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